What Should You Do When You Have a Bad Boss?
It is a very difficult process to be managed and managed by a Bad Boss. Although most people love their job, they are in danger of losing their job because of their boss. You can overcome this problem with our recommendations.
Although companies spend $ 15 billion each year on management and leadership development, bad bosses are common in the workforce. According to a study by Life Meets Work, 56% of workers find their bosses mildly or highly harmful. Another study found that 75% of employees are "their bosses, the most stressful part of their workday".
And a recent study by Gallup has been the subject of research where one in two employees quit to get rid of their manager at some point in their career.
Yet another study surprisingly found that employees worked longer (two years on average) with bosses they found more harmful than non-harmful bosses. Okay but why?
It is difficult to quit
Although people do not like their bosses for many reasons, they continue their business. Here are some of the most common reasons I heard during my 20 years of organizational consulting and coaching:
I don't have the energy to look for a new job.
I love my job / colleagues / workplace.
I need a salary. I cannot afford a salary cut.
There is no better job I can find.
I don't want to lose the advantages it provides.
I have invested a lot to start a new organization.
This job pays very well.
I do not have the skills to find a different job.
Some things can get better.
Most of the above excuses relate to basic human psychology dynamics. People who endure high-stress situations often suffer from emotional fatigue as they lose the energy they need to move into a new state. It's hard to quit if another opportunity isn't in line, and if someone feels exhausted, it's even harder to queue another opportunity. Emotional exhaustion also destroys people's ability to think that more positive things will happen in the future, and despair arises.
Avoiding loss is another psychological process that makes it difficult to give up something you have. We strive to protect what we have achieved by working hard. In workplaces this can be salary, status, stability, seniority, social connections and all the other benefits you have accumulated over the years.
Additionally, research tells us that when people engage in work that is meaningful to them, they stay in harmful situations. In other words, when people engage in jobs with which they are emotionally attached; They avoid resigning even if there are bosses who mistreat them.
Finally, we can also hope that the average boss will change his ways, the company will take action and business will improve.
Although staying may seem safer than leaving, it actually involves many risks. A study of 3,122 Swedish male employees found that those working with harmful bosses were 60% more likely to have a heart attack, stroke or other life-threatening heart condition. Other studies show that people with harmful bosses are all more susceptible to chronic stress, depression and anxiety, which have a weakened immune system, increasing the risk of colds, strokes, and even heart attacks. Some studies show that physical and emotional damage inflicted by a harmful boss can take up to 22 months to heal. While the idea of quitting may seem scary, the fact of continuing a job with a harmful boss can be even more frightening.
How to Manage?
Bad bosses must be taken seriously. If resigning isn't an option, there are some practical things you can do to reduce the potential damage of working with a harmful boss. These specific strategies depend on the type of boss you have, for example; bullies, narcissists, etc. There are some general approaches that can help you manage the situation.
Forget to give feedback. Instead state your wishes. It's usually a good idea to try to talk to your boss and see what happens. But luckily, your boss might not be open to receiving feedback on his failures. So have specific requests to get what you need. Be clear about the resources and support you need to do your job, explain your reasoning; State how this will benefit them and the organization. Set the timing; Try to have these conversations while your boss is calm and optimistic. Be sure to prepare, study, and anticipate reactions.
Contact your support network. A strong support network is essential when dealing with an emotionally challenging situation. Surround yourself with friends and people who support and encourage you. Do different things outside of the workplace to relieve your stress and socialize. Talk to a coach, therapist, or other trained professional.
Get plenty of exercise and sleep. The main thing is to take care of your physical and mental health. If possible, take a temporary break from work. Find non-work activities that bring you joy and satisfaction. Consider mindfulness and relaxation practices such as yoga and meditation. Practice positive speech therapies that remind you that the problem isn't yours. Remember, you can't control how your boss behaves; however, you can control how you react to their behavior.
Explore other opportunities in your organization. There may be ways to escape from your harmful boss without having to leave your company. Look for other positions that interest you, meet your colleagues and managers in other departments, think about where your skills might be directed, and create a reason for your transition.
Consider consulting with the HR department. Before consulting, research your HR department's reputation for supporting employee complaints. Let them know the problems you are having with your boss and what you are doing to correct the situation. In the same situation, they may have helped others and offer solutions you didn't think of.
Know When You Will Go
Always be prepared to accept that resignation can be the best solution. There are some clear signs that it is time to move on to the next job. If you are afraid to go to work every day, if you feel physically or mentally insecure at work, if you spend more time thinking about your boss than work, if work-related stress affects the rest of your life, if you have low self-esteem, it's time to go. You have to allow yourself to make a career change; You should give up hope that things will get better and overcome the fear of separation.
Once you have made the decision to quit, it's important to do it as professionally and gracefully as possible. Although it may be tempting to go in a storm of anger and come out cursing; this rarely works in the long run. So don't burn bridges. Here are a few tips that might be helpful:
Prepare your next move. There is no magic bullet here: just start looking for work.
Give advance notice correctly: The standard for most industries is two weeks. Giving more time is always an option, but try not to give less. Write an appropriate letter of resignation and personally tell your manager that you are leaving. Remember, resignation letters are often found in employee files and can be used if your former boss is called for reference. Make sure your letter is professional.
Create a timeline for the transition. Be clear about your transition plans. Before leaving, be clear about what to do and stick to it. If you promise to finish projects, finish them. Do not promise more than you can do, but do not leave incomplete what you say you will be interested in. You can inform your boss and team, the status of all your projects, etc. fully inform about.
Get ready to go early. If your boss is a really tough guy, he can dismiss you as soon as you report. Before giving notice, your personal belongings, contact information, important documents, recommendations, etc. Make sure it is edited. Make sure you return all company properties promptly and correctly. Obtain the appropriate documentation stating your return. The last thing you want is for them to claim that you are stealing something.
Don't talk bad. Resist the urge to talk badly about your boss during potential job interviews or even after starting a new job. The hiring managers do not know you or your boss; a complainant who is said to see it all.
Remember, there is no problem resigning. Your personal and professional future may depend on this.