How to Persuade anyone of anything
How to Persuade People: The only way to come out of an argument useful is to avoid it! Respect people's opinion. Never say "you are wrong" to your face! If you find yourself wrong, admit it right away!
Collaborating with people and getting their support is essential, anytime and anywhere. For this reason, in our article, we will talk about ways to meet people on common ground or to convince them:
1. The only way to come out of an argument useful is to avoid it!
90% of an argument is sentimentality and 10% is nonsense. That's why a mature professional always avoids arguments. As Buddha said:
“Hate can never be destroyed by hate. Hate is destroyed with love; this is immortal law. "
Arguing will not help you at all to gain the goodwill and support of the other party. On the contrary, it provokes the person you are discussing to hold tight to his opinion. Decide which one is more valuable. Will it win the argument or win the goodwill and support of the other person? Often it is harder to get both than a camel ditch.
You can be right and win the argument. However, when you collect the ideas of the other person and throw them away like a handkerchief, you will not be convinced by the other person. You are left with humiliating the other person and hurting their pride. After this hour, it becomes impossible to gain the sympathy of this person.
Also, remember that people continue to defend the same thoughts even if their opinions prove otherwise.
2. Respect the other person's opinion. Never say "you are wrong" to your face!
As Galileo said, "You cannot teach man anything; you can teach that you only find learning within yourself. " Avoid making people defensive. This attitude of the other party damages healthy communication. Instead of blaming them, ask why they feel this way and value their answer. Make them feel that you are listening and trying to understand their point of view. Admitting that you might be wrong is one of the best ways to do this. In this way, you will avoid possible discussions and try to solve your problem with a more accommodating, fair and open-minded interlocutor.
If you are sure that the other person is wrong, you can start with the following sentence:
“I think differently but I might be wrong. Because I'm too wrong. Even if I am wrong, I would like to learn the truth. Let's take this subject together if you wish. "
No one can resist the saying, "I might be wrong, let's take it together."
3. If you find yourself wrong, admit it immediately!
This behavior avoids conflict and paves the way for agreement. Have you gotten into an argument with any police? Actually, I got in. Once I was pulled aside because I made a wrong turn. When I lowered the window, I realized that he would be fined for asking me for identification. So I immediately admitted that I did wrong and apologized. I said that I am an unfamiliar place and added that I should pay more attention to the traffic signs. Admitting my mistake aroused a sense of compassion and understanding on the other side. He let me go that day without penalty.
For example, you can talk to a customer who has complained about their cargo:
“We sometimes experience so many problems in our shipping system that I am ashamed of it. We accept our mistake. Please describe the situation in full? "
In this way, it will leave the other person vulnerable and it will be easier for you to connect the subject to dessert.
4. Start the conversation friendly.
If you're not completely open and friendly, it's almost impossible to attract people to your side. If you show that you are friendly and sincere, you can gain the trust and support of the other party. In Lincoln's words:
"A drop of honey catches more flies than a bottle of poison."
If you present your opinion with a friendlier approach, you will find that people are more likely to change their minds.
I can give you an example from my own life about this:
It was the day of the increase in rent, but I was aware that I could not pay any more rent. When the host came, I greeted him with a friendly and smiling face. I started by stating how satisfied we were with the landlord and the house, rather than starting with the rent being high enough. I stated that we were very lucky to come across a host like him. Finally, I graciously explained that we want to stay at home for another year, but our budget cannot afford a rent increase. What do you think the result was? Our landlord was very surprised by my friendly attitude and started to suffer from his previous tenants. And as a result, there was not even a 1 cent hike in rent.
5. Have the other party say "yes, yes" right away!
It is very important to start the discussion by agreeing on certain issues. This behavior greatly facilitates agreement between the two sides in the difficult parts of the discussion. So when you start talking to people, leave the issues that you cannot agree on for later and go over the issues you have met on a common ground. In this way, you can create the impression that you both want the same thing on the other side and just try to go in different ways. Do your best and don't let the other person say "no".
You can examine the following example of how you can use the "yes, yes" method in daily life:
We had previously rented a tent from a company and went to a camp and I called the relevant company to rent it again. A lady answered the phone and stated that they could no longer rent a tent and asked if I had rented a tent before. I answered "yes, we rented it last summer". He reminded that I should have paid an average of 100-120 Dollars for this. My answer was "yes" again. Then he asked me if I was someone who knew the value of his money. I said "yes" again. He then stated that I could buy a tent by paying only 50 dollars difference and "Isn't that a logical decision? asked. I placed my order after a final "yes" answer.
6. Leave most of the speaking work to the other person.
In this way, you will learn what the other party knows, and if you are lucky enough, you can watch them convince them to cooperate. La Rochefouclad says:
"If you want the enemy to try to pass your friends. If you want friends, let your friends pass you by. "
The main purpose of this behavior is to make the other party feel more important. When you let the other person brag and listen carefully, you'll help them feel more important. At that very moment, your chances of persuading the other party to cooperation are very high. Use your luck and do your best.
7. Let the other party own your opinion
What matters is not who is right, but what is right. If you continue to argue by following this principle, you will reinforce the other party's self-confidence and encourage them to share their ideas and collaborate. Nobody can accept an idea imposed on them from outside fondly. If you present your proposal as a common idea, the other party will be more likely to be persuaded.
So how can you do that? Here is an example:
Imagine that you are working as a social media expert and you receive an article like this:
“Our company develops innovative products in the field of social media marketing. We know that our newly developed "social media management" product is not perfect and we want to get your opinion to improve it further. We would be very grateful if you could help us in this regard. As we know that your time is very valuable and busy, we will be happy to contact you at a time you specify. "
When faced with such a request, wouldn't you be flattered to know that your opinion didn't matter? Probably, you would test the product by responding positively and order it if you liked it. However, no matter where you look at this speech, it does not look like a sales speech, is it?